Conquering the ADHD MountainMar 10, 2021
As a parent of a child with ADHD, there are magical days when you feel a sense of hope, like the world just might be on your side. And then there are the days that seem to start with a bang, but end up in a heap of confusion, anger and grief.
Breakfast, vitamins, packed-lunch: check!
Bag, shoes, bus: check!
Dishes done, launch into work: check!
School calls. Bad news. Clunk, clunk and double clunk. Again?!
And suddenly you find yourself sitting on the steps with tears burning your eyes. Angry at your child's behavior. Angry at the school.
And angry that you are once again trying to solve the unsolvable puzzle.
The Reality of the ADHD Climb
Trying to conquer the ADHD mountain is equivalent to one step forward and three steps back. And if you are like our family, you have been up and down parts of the trail so many times that you've just about claimed your own trail marker!
So here you are once again sliding back down the mountain. And when the dust settles, you have only one thing you can do: unpack the truth.
You child has't fallen off the mountain, he or she has just slipped on a rock. A rock, that if you had been paying better attention, you might have noticed.
Take a moment to look at the full situation.
- What signs did you miss that things were going awry?
- Where have you been inconsistent?
- Where did you take your eye off the ball?
By looking at the full picture, you can help your child to learn to stand up, wipe off the dust and make the necessary course corrections.
Planning for Success
Managing a child's ADHD can be exhausting because any change in their daily routine or environment can be the rock that derails the climb.
But honestly, who has time to constantly keep a watchful eye?!
One useful strategy is to develop a plan.
A plan provides a bite-sized approach to an otherwise overwhelming task, while simultaneously setting markers or milestones which can indicate progress and/or areas for improvement.
A plan ensures you don't take your eye off the ball for too long, while providing some breathing room for life's nuances and stumbles—all without falling off the mountain!
A simple, but effective plan includes:
- A monthly calendar or planner
- Organization of events, activities and important dates
- A monthly goal to help determine progress
- Flag all events or changes in routine/structure that could trigger anxiety (even if they seem minor)
- Note any and all behavior fluctuations to provide a point of reference
Some days may feel daunting and void of hope, but remember: the only way to conquer a mountain is one tiny step after another.
Ivy Wild Kids is passionate about helping families embrace and organize the wild of ADHD, so children can realize their full potential and families can live happier and healthier lives!
We are so excited you found us and look forward to seeing you in our community!